Sunday, June 29, 2008
To pursue a girl in church is harder than when in the secular world. I find that in church, many girls have many inhibitions. They worry about boundaries, knowing the guy in a group setting, is he the right guy... There seems to be more than girls of the secular community.
As for the fact of going out in a group setting. Is this always feasible, especially when a guy wants to know a girl from another network. He got to know the girl from somewhere and then he wants to know her. However, when he asks her out for dates, she might worry about the signals she send him when she agrees.
As for the guy, should he back off or go on asking. Should he ask her to bring her friends? Then what about him bringing his friends? It would be akward, wouldn't it? Then how? It means guys wait and girls wait and everyone just waits for things to happen.
I do not deny in general wisdom of having guidelines but are we often being too legalistic? Are we ending up like the Pharisees? I mean, we need to live by the Spirit of God too. We need to ask God if certain things can go ahead or not & not always depend on rules and guidelines we have held fast for so long. I am not trying to rebel but I am just asking people to take another look at these things.
If you like the guy, just give him a chance. However, many girls do just shut the guy off early. The guy also maybe scared and do not know how to approach. Most guys are not suave and are kinda tongue-tied when they see a girl they like. This is especially so with church guys, who have not learnt the art of 'flirting'. Thus, they do not know how to be composed, compared to guys of the secular world. These guys know no bounds. They do not have hold to certain standards as compared to christian guys.
Thus, how to fight with these secular guys? However, guys, if u like the girl, just dare dare show some obvious hints. No need to hide and play tactical. However, I do not mean that you drop the bomb on her lap for it to explode in her face. She would not know how to react either. Play it cool la.
This is such an art and a science. It requires theory yet application. I just fin it tiresome sometimes with this situation. Maybe as Solomon put it - meaningless meaningless, all is meaningless? Sorry, just a bit ventilating... Haha... There is meaning but it's just that this journey has caused much thoughts in recent months.
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