Monday, July 10, 2006
Men are more head than heart. That's a conclusion. Many times, when men 'feel', they suppress, repress.... These are the ways men deal with emotions. Even though the world is switching to accept men who are SNAGs, many men are still crippled in their emotions.
Many of us men are handicapped to the extent that we do not know how we feel. When we are out of control, we withdraw from others and emotionally, we cannot cope. We will hide and try to sort it out before we come out of that. We do not realise sometimes, we need to talk it out and address the issue.
We are driven by a desire to be in control (even some women nowadays). If we cannot, we would probably use another method, which is indifference. Our security lies in what we can do, in what others' percieve of us. So we react by doing what we know best, using our head to analyse, to deal with what we are experiencing but we fail to realise sometimes, it is the heart that needs the room and space.
Even I am not able to do all that I have said. I am learning once more to listen to my heart, to tell me what I feel. Many times in the past, when things happen, I would use my mind to deal with it because I believe it is a waste of time to dwell on such matters. Sometimes, it is not as simple....! One needs to give the heart the space to feel then the mid process that feeling and then deal with that feeling...!
Many relationships suffer because when we suffer hurts from someone we love, we hide it or suppress... Then we realise much later when we quarrel, we dig up all these! Don't deny!!! We all do, right? So sometimes, we need to confront these issues, considering the best time, place and manner. Tone of voice is important. Like, I felt hurt when you said that because of blah blah... I hope you understand I value our friendship... That is why I need to let you know how I feel... Many such incidents can prevent longer running issues...
My heart is growing but slowly as I had many hurts which I did not know how to deal with back then but only to suppress them. Now I must face all these pains and move on. My mind has grown over the years but not my heart... Now it is time to play catch up. So much to learn... Must be balance!
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I am not rejected nor dejected....
That's a disclaimer!
Just some thoughts....
Love comes first or crush comes first? Is there love at first sight? Usually, we would like first before we explore so I am a firm believer that love comes with time. To like is to feel and to love is to will... One is more heart and the other goes beyond the heart. LOve comes with time and commitment to someone else. That's why so many people are asking for divorce because they no longer FEEL for each other! Who can feel so much for someone after a long period of time, like 10-20 years? We may feel an obligation at times but that is also not right.
Girls and women are really from another planet from the guys' point of view. Girls look for guys who are humourous, a leader and charming but when girls become older and turn into women, they turn into people with many many concerns. When a guy tries to be friendly, they can get a bit worried. What's wrong with making new friends? It's not as if one is asking you to be a soul mate and pour your heart out. They really guard their hearts like crazy...! Oh well.... At least that's how I feel about it. At least that's christian women. Oh well... I cannot understand the rationale...
It's a matter of perceptions and feel... Just some thoughts... Ladies, don't get upset! It is just some thoughts...
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