Sunday, June 29, 2008
To pursue a girl in church is harder than when in the secular world. I find that in church, many girls have many inhibitions. They worry about boundaries, knowing the guy in a group setting, is he the right guy... There seems to be more than girls of the secular community.
As for the fact of going out in a group setting. Is this always feasible, especially when a guy wants to know a girl from another network. He got to know the girl from somewhere and then he wants to know her. However, when he asks her out for dates, she might worry about the signals she send him when she agrees.
As for the guy, should he back off or go on asking. Should he ask her to bring her friends? Then what about him bringing his friends? It would be akward, wouldn't it? Then how? It means guys wait and girls wait and everyone just waits for things to happen.
I do not deny in general wisdom of having guidelines but are we often being too legalistic? Are we ending up like the Pharisees? I mean, we need to live by the Spirit of God too. We need to ask God if certain things can go ahead or not & not always depend on rules and guidelines we have held fast for so long. I am not trying to rebel but I am just asking people to take another look at these things.
If you like the guy, just give him a chance. However, many girls do just shut the guy off early. The guy also maybe scared and do not know how to approach. Most guys are not suave and are kinda tongue-tied when they see a girl they like. This is especially so with church guys, who have not learnt the art of 'flirting'. Thus, they do not know how to be composed, compared to guys of the secular world. These guys know no bounds. They do not have hold to certain standards as compared to christian guys.
Thus, how to fight with these secular guys? However, guys, if u like the girl, just dare dare show some obvious hints. No need to hide and play tactical. However, I do not mean that you drop the bomb on her lap for it to explode in her face. She would not know how to react either. Play it cool la.
This is such an art and a science. It requires theory yet application. I just fin it tiresome sometimes with this situation. Maybe as Solomon put it - meaningless meaningless, all is meaningless? Sorry, just a bit ventilating... Haha... There is meaning but it's just that this journey has caused much thoughts in recent months.
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
I was in anticipation for the trip as I was really anxious to spend time with my volleyball pupils. As the days went by, their manners and noise level continually made it unbearable. It made me irritable and moody, especially since I lacked sleep.
They are a lovely bunch but they need to learn when they need to keep quiet. Then there was unnecessary chatters that made it unbearable. However, I think the trip has done them good though it made me and Miss Chin very tired.
I felt that they have learnt to appreciate Singapore and our training conditions a lot better. I am sure they have also realised how we need to learn from the Thai players' attitudes of pressing on despite hardship. The Thai players never mutter complaints nor do they show displeasure when the conditions are not to their liking. Pupils can also see for themselves how they need to bond together as a team to function.
I really hope they will press on for the goals they have set out to attain. Else, when they fall short, regret would be too late. I was in teams that could never win anything but we tried our best to make life difficult for our opponents. We never went down without a fight. Our training then was so intense that most pupils would think it's mad. I used to run 2.4km or 5km before we do physical trainings. Physical trainings included sprints, jumps, crunches, push ups and so on, which lasted for 1-2 hours. By the time that we start on ball work and blocking drills, most of us would be half dead. Then when we do formation drills, most of us will cramp.
Also, when we trained, we had no coaches. The coach was our teacher who was busy with teaching the Secondary Four pupils. We had to train on our own. Some served while some recieved. If anyone made a mistake, we pumped ourselves 1o push ups for each mistake. Sometimes, we can do a thousand push ups or sit ups in one training session.
We were fit but we were not good technically. Thus, we did not win much but we were disciplined and were not an embarassment to our school. One of the reason why I push my pupils is in hope they will not regret for not trying hard enough and then realised that they could have done better. I do not see it as they fulfil an ambition of mine because at the end of the day, I do not get anything from them if they win. All the more, I might lose money because I have to treat them.
I just hope they do not let themselves down. They may think it is tough and they may think the coaches and I are mad. I just hope they can see what we see. We see their potential to perform and we do not want them to lose to themselves. If they lose to worthy opponents, then there would be no regrets. If they were to lose to themselves, they would regret and they can never turn back time. Jiayou, my beloved volleyballers!
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