Wednesday, December 05, 2007
BGR - Boy Girl Relationship
The buzz word among teens. The word that captures attention. The thing that causes the heart to flutter.
In the end, is it all about feelings? I pretty much doubt it. I do not deny the need for feelings but I also do not discount the fact that when all these flowery words, feelings and gifts fade, what is left? Is it only feelings? There's more to liking. There needs to be love, which is a committment word. As much as most people are fearful of committment, love is to commit.
Relationship does not cure loneliness. If one cannot live a happy and contented life, how can just by having another person cure the state one is in? If driven by this need, then wrong choices are easily made cuz many rather choose a not so good person and jump right in, in fear of being alone.
When one is emotionally handicapped, one does not realise the fact that one is not able to give freely of oneself. How can an immatured person deal with another immatured person? It spells disaster. If we do not first get our lives right emotionally, spiritually, financially... How can we live with another person? This other person cannot depend on you and neither can you depend on him/her for your needs. Don't get me wrong. I am not saying that partners should not be there for each other but the essence of the relationship is not to look for someone to depend on. We should still offer ourselves to them but each person must be responsible for his/her growth.
It is difficult to explain all these. Been through a few broken relationships at an early age. Hurt gals unknowingly. I was selfish and at times, manipulative. However, I was not aware of it. Not that I am trying to justify what I did. Bygones be bygones. These gals have all moved on, whereas I am still single. Sinngle by choice. Not that I am handicapped by my past but the opportunity has yet to surface itself.
To love is not to be demanding and manipulative. Many times, we are insecure and we do emotional blackmail. Do note that this is not the way to go. A relationship is built on trust, built on mutual respect and built on love.
How then do we know we are ready for a relationship then, one may ask? I can only say it's not indicated by physical age but by emotional and spiritual depth.
Superficiality fades but spirituality flourishes with time. This should be the norm, the guide to life of maturity but not all live this way.
Gotta go. Will work on this post again should I feel led to.
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